| ⇐ Previous | Next ⇒ |
How Can I Make Someone Tell the Truth?
May 25, 2009 by Steve
I’ll be honest with you. You can’t make someone do something they don’t want to do, but what you can do is use my lie-detector test to see if someone is telling you the truth or not. It’s really easy to do and once you get the hang of it, you’ll start to learn a lot about others.
Here’s my video:
Related Posts on this topic
Have an opinion? Comments welcome.
155 Comments so far




I always get confused, since you look at the person as at a mirror image. So if they lookto their left it’s actually my right, and it takes time to analyze that…besides we tend to get “hypnotyzed” by the words and notice non-verbal communication less. Yet, this is a powerful technique. But let’s not get paranoid over who’s lying to us ;-)
Hi Steve,
Are you familiar with the Fox prime time T.V. show “Lie to me”? It airs Wednesday nights at 7:00pm central standard time. I believe they just aired the season finale last week. It is a fascinating show about solving crimes based on a “lie detector expert” who is trained to read physical reactions, facial expressions, hand gestures, body language, etc… I highly encourage to tune in next season! :-) Great show!
I have also read somewhere that another indicator of whether or not someone is lying has to do with how lengthy their excuses or explanations are. For example, sometimes the more detailed someone can describe what happened, quite frequently, the explanation is a complete and total fabrication. What generally occurs is that the alleged liar believes the more details he describes, the more credible he/she will appear to the listener.
This, of course, may not be the case in 100% of the situations, but we would all be surprised at how much ALL of us lie on a daily basis! Most of the time lying occurs for self-preservation. Perhaps we are trying to raise our own self-esteem, perhaps we are trying to get out of an awkward, uncomfortable, or embarassing situation. Perhaps we are trying to avoid conflict, avoid hurting someone’s feelings, or getting into a confrontation. There are any number of reasons we lie (to others and sometimes even to ourselves).
If you’re seeking who some of the world’s best liars are, just turn to politics. “Poly” means many and “ticks” means blood suckers. There are many bloddsuckers who are expert liars. Watch their mannerisms and listen to them carefully. Does anyone believe there are any we can trust? I highly doubt it very much.
Interesting topic Steve and a very relenvant one.
Maximize Your Potential!
Vitalia
@ Joanna:
Nothing too serious, it’s just a fun game to play :)
@ Vitalia:
The “Lie to me,” TV concept sounds interesting. I don’t watch much TV, except for a few re-runs of Seinfeld, Friends and the odd hockey game – go figure I’m Canadian, eh?
Steve,
I’ve heard about this before and how surprisingly accurate these signs are. As for me, I’m such a terrible liar, I’m better off telling the truth or just keeping my mouth shut anyway. One tool I’ve used is really simple: 5 seconds of silence. Whenever I want to REALLY get to the bottom of an issue, usually involving one of my kids, I make a conscious effort to wait at least 5 seconds after the person I’m talking to finishes. People hate silence and you’d be surprised at how hard it takes for 5 seconds of silence to occur. I find that by keeping quiet and just listening, the liar will ultimately tell on themselves.
Hi Steve!
When I was younger I was interested in the possible ways to recognise whether a person is telling the truth or not. And I was very intrigued in non-verbal behaviour when a couple of years ago I watched this movie with Al Pacino and Colin Farrell about CIA training program. Something similar to what Joanna says – left, right etc.
Now I can share with you that every time I tell the truth I can recognise whether the opposite side is telling the truth or not.
It is as simple as that.
Your spoken truth is your “lie-detector test”.
My spoken truth is my “lie-detector test”.
And it is really a fun game to play.
Best,
Vladimir
“There aint no way to hide you’re lying eyes…”
That’s an Eagles song, isn’t it?
Anyway – lying is quite the art form when you think about it. It requires a lot of acting and memory skills as well as body control.
I had read a fascinating set of articles on “effective lying techniques” that I wish I had on hand to link – it basically told you all of the things you should put into practice when you’re telling a “story” so when it comes time to actually lying, you follow the same actions and people wont be led astray by erratic behaviour.
One of the items mentioned was eye position and there was a rationale similar to the NLP one you just talked about.
It was basically a set-up where you ask a question about an event that you and the liar witnessed, where you study the liar’s face and eye position. Then after that, you ask a similar question about an event where you were not present and let the liar do his/her thing and you compare the expressions.
If they’re honest, the pattern remains the same – if they break from that comfort pattern, they’re thinking too much and at an obvious discomfort.
The body does weird things in stressful moments.
@ CJ – that is a great point! I didn’t realize it until you mentioned it CJ, but I also unconsciously do the same thing with my coaching clients so that I give them the space to open up about a problem or challenge that is on their mind. I also do this when I’m in a conversation with Trisha.
@ Drezz – I love it when you said, “quite the art form,” and it’s so true. It takes creative thinking to be a good liar :)
Hmmm… I’m definitely going to watch my high school students and my personal training clients. Will keep you posted :)
Hey good video, I like your style and format of your content :)!
[..YouTube..] The left of him, or the left of me? lol
[..YouTube..] The left of him, or the left of me? lol
[..YouTube..] The left of him, or the left of me? lol
[..YouTube..] The left of him, or the left of me? lol
[..YouTube..] The left of him, or the left of me? lol
[..YouTube..] The left of him, or the left of me? lol
[..YouTube..] cool
[..YouTube..] cool
[..YouTube..] Yeah, it can be a bit confusing at first – it just takes a bit of practice and watching others. After you do this for a few days you’re brain will get the idea and start doing it automatically.
[..YouTube..] Yeah, it can be a bit confusing at first – it just takes a bit of practice and watching others. After you do this for a few days you’re brain will get the idea and start doing it automatically.
[..YouTube..] Yeah, it can be a bit confusing at first – it just takes a bit of practice and watching others. After you do this for a few days you’re brain will get the idea and start doing it automatically.
[..YouTube..] Yeah, it can be a bit confusing at first – it just takes a bit of practice and watching others. After you do this for a few days you’re brain will get the idea and start doing it automatically.
[..YouTube..] Yeah, it can be a bit confusing at first – it just takes a bit of practice and watching others. After you do this for a few days you’re brain will get the idea and start doing it automatically.
[..YouTube..] Yeah, it can be a bit confusing at first – it just takes a bit of practice and watching others. After you do this for a few days you’re brain will get the idea and start doing it automatically.
[..YouTube..] wait you mean that person’s left or mine??
[..YouTube..] wait you mean that person’s left or mine??
[..YouTube..] wait you mean that person’s left or mine??
[..YouTube..] wait you mean that person’s left or mine??
[..YouTube..] im pretty sure other guys left
so ur right
i think
[..YouTube..] im pretty sure other guys left
so ur right
i think
[..YouTube..] im pretty sure other guys left
so ur right
i think
[..YouTube..] im pretty sure other guys left
so ur right
i think
[..YouTube..] im pretty sure other guys left
so ur right
i think
[..YouTube..] what if thier eyes dont move at all?
[..YouTube..] what if thier eyes dont move at all?
[..YouTube..] what if thier eyes dont move at all?
[..YouTube..] what if thier eyes dont move at all?
[..YouTube..] what if thier eyes dont move at all?
what if thier eyes dont move at all?
[..YouTube..] @randomizercleoXxX:
Their eyes are always moving… everyone does this, but the movement is very subtle and it does take some training to notice it… but it’s so much FUN :)
Steve
[..YouTube..] @randomizercleoXxX:
Their eyes are always moving… everyone does this, but the movement is very subtle and it does take some training to notice it… but it’s so much FUN :)
Steve
[..YouTube..] @randomizercleoXxX:
Their eyes are always moving… everyone does this, but the movement is very subtle and it does take some training to notice it… but it’s so much FUN :)
Steve
[..YouTube..] @randomizercleoXxX:
Their eyes are always moving… everyone does this, but the movement is very subtle and it does take some training to notice it… but it’s so much FUN :)
Steve
[..YouTube..] @randomizercleoXxX:
Their eyes are always moving… everyone does this, but the movement is very subtle and it does take some training to notice it… but it’s so much FUN :)
Steve
@randomizercleoXxX:
Their eyes are always moving… everyone does this, but the movement is very subtle and it does take some training to notice it… but it’s so much FUN :)
Steve
[..YouTube..] what if he stares straight in ur eyes?
[..YouTube..] what if he stares straight in ur eyes?
[..YouTube..] what if he stares straight in ur eyes?
[..YouTube..] what if he stares straight in ur eyes?
[..YouTube..] what if he stares straight in ur eyes?
what if he stares straight in ur eyes?
[..YouTube..] your hot ;)
[..YouTube..] your hot ;)
[..YouTube..] your hot ;)
[..YouTube..] your hot ;)
your hot ;)
[..YouTube..] our right or them?
[..YouTube..] our right or them?
[..YouTube..] our right or them?
[..YouTube..] our right or them?
our right or them?
[..YouTube..] You actually just told us how to lie Correctly :D
[..YouTube..] You actually just told us how to lie Correctly :D
[..YouTube..] You actually just told us how to lie Correctly :D
[..YouTube..] You actually just told us how to lie Correctly :D
You actually just told us how to lie Correctly :D
[..YouTube..] @ziblikh: :-)
[..YouTube..] @ziblikh: :-)
[..YouTube..] @ziblikh: :-)
[..YouTube..] @ziblikh: :-)
@ziblikh: :-)
[..YouTube..] @stephenmartile… : D
[..YouTube..] @stephenmartile… : D
[..YouTube..] @stephenmartile… : D
[..YouTube..] @stephenmartile… : D
@stephenmartile… : D
[..YouTube..] our right/or left or theirs??
[..YouTube..] our right/or left or theirs??
[..YouTube..] our right/or left or theirs??
[..YouTube..] our right/or left or theirs??
our right/or left or theirs??
[..YouTube..] What is there starring straight at u ?
[..YouTube..] What is there starring straight at u ?
[..YouTube..] What is there starring straight at u ?
[..YouTube..] What is there starring straight at u ?
What is there starring straight at u ?
[..YouTube..] I always look directly upwards. :/
[..YouTube..] I always look directly upwards. :/
[..YouTube..] I always look directly upwards. :/
[..YouTube..] I always look directly upwards. :/
[..YouTube..] I always look directly upwards. :/
I always look directly upwards. :/
[..YouTube..] our right or theirs?
[..YouTube..] our right or theirs?
[..YouTube..] our right or theirs?
[..YouTube..] our right or theirs?
our right or theirs?
[..YouTube..] my friend stole my ipod cuz it was lost and i asked him if he stole it
[..YouTube..] my friend stole my ipod cuz it was lost and i asked him if he stole it
[..YouTube..] my friend stole my ipod cuz it was lost and i asked him if he stole it
[..YouTube..] my friend stole my ipod cuz it was lost and i asked him if he stole it
[..YouTube..] my friend stole my ipod cuz it was lost and i asked him if he stole it
my friend stole my ipod cuz it was lost and i asked him if he stole it
How can you tell when you are not face to face. is there something to listen for if maybe on the phone or something.
[..YouTube..] How does this video relate to lesbians?
[..YouTube..] How does this video relate to lesbians?
[..YouTube..] How does this video relate to lesbians?
[..YouTube..] How does this video relate to lesbians?
[..YouTube..] How does this video relate to lesbians?
[..YouTube..] How does this video relate to lesbians?
How does this video relate to lesbians?
[..YouTube..] theirs. they simulate going to the right side of the brain, is i think, what this guy is trying to say.
[..YouTube..] theirs. they simulate going to the right side of the brain, is i think, what this guy is trying to say.
[..YouTube..] theirs. they simulate going to the right side of the brain, is i think, what this guy is trying to say.
[..YouTube..] theirs. they simulate going to the right side of the brain, is i think, what this guy is trying to say.
[..YouTube..] theirs. they simulate going to the right side of the brain, is i think, what this guy is trying to say.
theirs. they simulate going to the right side of the brain, is i think, what this guy is trying to say.
[..YouTube..] it actually says Lebanese…as in the country
[..YouTube..] it actually says Lebanese…as in the country
[..YouTube..] it actually says Lebanese…as in the country
[..YouTube..] it actually says Lebanese…as in the country
it actually says Lebanese…as in the country
[..YouTube..] @ReturnOfTheSkyRaider lol, oops sorry spelt it wrong. i can’t lie, when i seen the 2 chicks the first thing i thought was lesbians. what do lebs have to do with the vid?
[..YouTube..] @ReturnOfTheSkyRaider lol, oops sorry spelt it wrong. i can’t lie, when i seen the 2 chicks the first thing i thought was lesbians. what do lebs have to do with the vid?
[..YouTube..] @ReturnOfTheSkyRaider lol, oops sorry spelt it wrong. i can’t lie, when i seen the 2 chicks the first thing i thought was lesbians. what do lebs have to do with the vid?
[..YouTube..] @ReturnOfTheSkyRaider lol, oops sorry spelt it wrong. i can’t lie, when i seen the 2 chicks the first thing i thought was lesbians. what do lebs have to do with the vid?
[..YouTube..] @ReturnOfTheSkyRaider lol, oops sorry spelt it wrong. i can’t lie, when i seen the 2 chicks the first thing i thought was lesbians. what do lebs have to do with the vid?
[..YouTube..] @ReturnOfTheSkyRaider lol, oops sorry spelt it wrong. i can’t lie, when i seen the 2 chicks the first thing i thought was lesbians. what do lebs have to do with the vid?
[..YouTube..] lol, oops sorry spelt it wrong. i can’t lie, when i seen the 2 chicks the first thing i thought was lesbians. what do lebs have to do with the vid?
lol, oops sorry spelt it wrong. i can’t lie, when i seen the 2 chicks the first thing i thought was lesbians. what do lebs have to do with the vid?
[..YouTube..] there maybe similarities in the comments – emphasis on certain word/s.
[..YouTube..] there maybe similarities in the comments - emphasis on certain word/s.
[..YouTube..] there maybe similarities in the comments – emphasis on certain word/s.
[..YouTube..] there maybe similarities in the comments – emphasis on certain word/s.
there maybe similarities in the comments – emphasis on certain word/s.
Hi Steve! I have an interesting-one for you: English is not my first language. I have spend in the UK only 2 years now and even though my brain ‘talks’ and works in english, it still isn’t my first language. OK, let’s get to the chase. Sometimes when I talk I look to the right, when I am thinking about the best word to use, or trying to find a different one. Or when I am trying to make sure I talk clear sentences and am understood exactly. I understand what you mean by this theory, but shouldn’t we consider more aspects to come to a conclusion whether someone is lying or not? Isn’t psychology, or respectively the social psychology an unexact science? Isn’t the objectivity only a subject of the subjectivity? Anyway, I will try your theory on native english speakers (already know, tomorrow will ask my colleague if she enjoys the job, in front of the boss:) and will see where her eyes will roll! Or not! Thanks Steve, and will see you soon on your next video! Regards, Viktoria
[..YouTube..] But what if someone is lying to you on the internet?
But what if someone is lying to you on the internet?
[..YouTube..] What if the person is left-handed? :D
[..YouTube..] It claims its the other way around:
blifaloo.com/info/lies_eyes.php
Personally I always fixate on a point to the right, whether I’m remembering, speculating or imagining. That or I look around/most likely look at the person. Additionally, I’m part of the group that believe that this is bulls**t, as I have tried it out on friends, family, (others on myself when I wasn’t aware of the eye idea) and strangers for a report and have found that its really just chance.
Just my opinion.. :)
It claims its the other way around:
blifaloo.com/info/lies_eyes.php
Personally I always fixate on a point to the right, whether I’m remembering, speculating or imagining. That or I look around/most likely look at the person. Additionally, I’m part of the group that believe that this is bulls**t, as I have tried it out on friends, family, (others on myself when I wasn’t aware of the eye idea) and strangers for a report and have found that its really just chance.
Just my opinion.. :)
[..YouTube..] whose left?
whose left?
[..YouTube..] Who else immediately looked up the Bill Clinton video?
Who else immediately looked up the Bill Clinton video?
I got a problem, every time i talk or tell a true story and notice that my friends are does not believe in me, i will become nervous even tho i am telling the truth. And i started to look like a liar just like in your video. Can you help me? Sorry bad english.
How to make ppl say the truth via message??
their left
cool it realy works
STEVE MARTILE I sent you a message. I hope you can respond ASAP !!!! Thank You !!!!
yeah the thing is .. I have tried what u said with my friend, i know that he lied cuz i asked him something i knew about him, that he thought i didn’t know.. so when i was asking and he was answering he looked left..it was like straight-then left straight then left..
was it maybe because i was sitting more towards the left of him..or the position where i sit at doesnt matter.. only the eye movements do?
there left
no, my mums eye never move when i ask her a question :)
I’ll be trying this on my 11-year-old TODAY.
what if ur standing in front of them and they are looking RIGHT in ur eyes ….. its not to the left nor to the right =(…… PLEASE REPLY
Cracked the truth but the truth HURTS :( :)