Love Your Job? If not, do this.

6 Comments so far

1. HK on August 23, 2009 11:55 am

   Steve,

   Yesterday, I asked myself what if I only have
   six months on earth…the answer was…I would leave my job, sell the house and go to the man I love and drown myself in music…

   what if I have 10 years, I said I would save some money and run to India to learn dance full-time so I have time to perform before I leave earth…

   but if I have 30 years to go…then I have to have a job, a paid off house and the stuff…

   and who would tell me how many years are really left…

2. Steve on August 23, 2009 2:17 pm

   Hi Hema,

   That’s a great way to put it and to be honest with you, nobody really knows how long you or I are going to be around. It could be 6 months, 6 days or even 6 hours.

   I went rafting last weekend (in Ottawa) and our raft tipped. The rapids were pretty severe so we all went for a pretty intense ride under the rapids.

   After it was all over and we were recovering on the rocks nearby, a good friend of mine told me he felt that he might die in those rapids. Thoughts of death were spinning through his head. Just as he was about to give up, he managed to reach the surface and get a gulp of air in the nick of time. As he was sharing that story he told me the only thing he could think of was his wife and 12 week old babe.

   I think for some of us death never crosses our minds, but it some cases it puts our priorities into perspective.

   If you were under water and struggling for your last breath thinking about all the things you wanted to do with your life, would you be making excuses and giving reasons why you never got around to them, or would you find the courage and inner strength to dive in, make a plan and get into action to make it all happen?

3. Venessa on June 24, 2011 1:00 am

   Hey Steve. How are you? I am an engineer as well. I’ve been in structural engineering for 5 years now and i HATE THE INDUSTRY!!!!

   The job I have now is nice because it’s flexible and I fear if I leave this job I will no longer have the flexibility that I have now.

   I also don’t know what I really want to do. I’d like to work from home mostly and have an income of $150,000+ a year.

   I’d like advice on figuring out what my true purpose is and how to manifest the business or job that has the requirements that I want.

   Thanks

4. Steve on June 25, 2011 3:33 pm

   First of all… don’t leave your job until you first have a strategy and a plan in place that will help you do that… I realize that is the opposite of what I did… but if I were to do it all over again, I would definitely have a plan in place with some concrete steps before I left my job…

   Next is to decide what you want… do you want another job or do you want to start a business? Doing what? In what city? how are you helping people? How many clients would you need in that new business to earn $150,000+ per year?

   Write this all down… then once you’re clear on what you want, read this: 3 Steps to Install a Positive Belief System

5. Judith Welling on July 29, 2011 1:00 am

   Dear Steve,

   What if one feels a conflict about being happy in the present, and being motivated to work towards the future? I am already pretty tired when I come home at night, and it takes a lot of positive energy to get myself feeling good again. But once I’m feeling good, I’m often out of time to work towards a future change!

   I’m not trying to speak from a scarcity mindset here, but a practical one. Have you faced such a situation?

   Many thanks,

   Judy

6. Steve on July 29, 2011 9:47 am

   …yeah for sure Judy. I remember coming home from working in my job in Toronto. At the end of the week I would feel completely exhausted. I would go to my hockey games on Friday nights (doing something I loved doing) and sometimes I just couldn’t find the energy to do it!! (even though I absolutely love playing hockey)

   What you must realize is that moment by moment, you are either doing one of two things… you are either resisting the moment or going with it.

   The truth is that it takes a lot of energy to resist the moment (even though many of us do this). And if you do this out of habit then it can be very tiring and exhausting… i.e. when you say “I don’t love my job” or “I wish I did’t have to do this right now,” or “Why doesn’t that person stop bothering me!” then what you’re doing is thinking about something in the past or about something that may happen in the future.

   But you are not in the moment.

   You said you have a conflict about being happy in the present moment. It’s because you’re resisting the moment. You’re not letting yourself be in this moment right now!