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September 14, 2010 by Steve
Easy to say, hard to do. Like most things, getting yourself to stay focused on feeling good takes practice. In this article I’ll share what I feel is one of the most important things you can do to help you attract more happiness, abundance, money, business opportunities, love, sex and even ecstasy into your life.
It comes down to one idea: stay focused on what makes you feel good. This is one of the primary themes in the Ester-Hicks philosophy on the Law of Attraction.
The basic premise of the Ester-Hicks philosophy is that the better you feel, the faster you attract the people, situations and circumstances you want into your life. The faster you attract the people, situations and circumstances you want into your life, the faster you shift your energy into a higher vibration. The faster you shift your energy into a higher vibration, the better you feel. The better you feel, the more opportunities show up. The more opportunities show up, the faster you are moving with the current in your life. The faster you are moving with the current in your life, the faster and more rapidly you begin to attract what you want and the further away you move from what you don’t want.
Get what I’m saying?
But there is one caveat. You are the source of it all. It ALL begins with you – ALL OF IT. You are 100% responsible for your vibration, the way you feel and what you attract into your life.
Nobody else is responsible for the way you feel. For some that’s a dagger to the heart. I know it’s a hard pill to swallow (at first) but you – my friend – are at the source of it ALL… 100%.
Should I Ditch My Obligations?
So are you saying I should ditch my obligations and just focus on feeling good?
That’s not what I’m saying. What I’m saying is that you need to realize that the better you feel, the more aligned you become. The more aligned you become, the faster people and circumstances show up. The faster people and circumstances show up, the more congruent you are. The more congruent you are, the better you feel and the better you feel the more harmony you experience; the more harmony you experience, the faster things show up in your bubble of reality.
You want to focus on what makes you feel better on a moment to moment basis. I like the way Joe Vitale put it in the movie the Secret when he said (paraphrased),
“If you feel like eating a salami sandwich, then have one. You always want to be thinking and doing things that make you feel good.”
In the beginning, this is one of the hardest things to do. We’re not wired to run ourselves this way. It takes a leap of faith at first… to know and trust your feelings – one of the most advanced guidance systems we have.
Release Old Programming
We’ve been programmed to do what our church says, what our government says, what the TV commercials say, what the wrapper on your bubble gum says, what your parents and friends have told you. We’ve been conditioned to ignore our feelings and to follow our conditioning. To listen to the messages that have been repeated to us over and over again through media and other channels that don’t necessarily have our best interests at heart.
We’ve been told that success is an upward battle; that you need to work hard to get ahead. That you need to struggle and that having a better life means sacrifice.
There is some truth in that statement. You might feel that way when you start focusing on what makes you feel good. It really takes something to “try-on” a new way of doing things – and by doing things differently you will have to sacrifice and let go of your old ways of being and doing. That is the commitment.
What I’m saying is give yourself a break. Give yourself a frick’n break!
Stop being so hard on yourself. Stop working so hard and start thinking and acting on the things that make you feel good.
What Makes You Feel Good?
A good example of this is someone who watches TV. They work hard all week and come home in the evening, drop dead in front of the TV and veg-out on the couch. If their normal waking feeling is a 3 out of 10 (10 being completely awesome and 1 being depressed) then moving to the couch and watching TV might be a 5 out of 10.
Watching TV actually makes them feel better. That’s better than where they were and it’s getting them to shift to an even better feeling.
The next question you want to ask yourself is, what would make you feel even better? Maybe it’s calling your best friend and listening to them on the phone. Maybe it’s going to the refrigerator and grabbing a tub of ice cream. It doesn’t matter what it is. If it makes you feel better, then you’re moving in the right direction!
It’s all about thinking and doing things that make you feel better.
The best teachers practice what they preach. Just before I started writing this article I was eating a piece of cake in the kitchen. At that point I was feeling about a 7 out of 10. (It was good cake!)
Then I got inspired. I got an idea to write this article and I acted on it. Thirty minutes later I was warmed up. I was a 9 out of 10 and about half way through the article I was in a state of “flow” and felt a perfect 10.
Shortly after this Trisha came down into the kitchen. This broke my flow state and I got annoyed with her, which brought me back down to a 7 out of 10. Instead of sitting there and feeling annoyed I decided to join her for dinner; we laughed and had a good conversation which brought me back up to a 9 out of 10.
Over and over, moment by moment it’s our job to find the things to think and do that make us feel good.
When I first started this practice I found myself focusing only on thoughts. That worked ok, but what I found even more helpful was to focus on doing things that changed the way I felt. Writing made me feel good; masterminding made me feel good; being social with friends made me feel good; coaching and servicing others made me feel good.
What makes you feel good and how do you know if you’re a 3, 5 or 9 out of 10?
This is where real mastery comes in. Again, it takes practice. You want to calibrate where you are as much as possible so that you know how you are feeling. Even right now in this moment, you want to know how you feel. Did reading this article make you feel better? If so, then by how much?
If it did help then maybe you should read some more ;-)
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