Archives for Happiness
I’ve been reading quite a few books from Cheri Huber lately. Her work is mainly focused on meditation and being in the moment. I’ve been meditating consistently since mid-2011 so it wasn’t a big jump for me to add the nuances that Cheri teaches in her books into my own daily practice.
I found that the more I practiced what she was teaching, the more insight I gained. Think about gaining insight after insight after insight… being in a continuous state of complete spontaneity and surprise… as if every breathing moment is another moment for you to learn something new. It’s an exciting place to live from.
Cheri talks about “living in insight” as a reality for those who practice meditation. I think Cheri is spot-on. Anyone who commits to the regular practice of being in the present moment can live in insight. I thought this idea of living-in-insight as being such a wild and exciting ride that I would buy a bunch of Cheri’s books.
Here are a list of Cheri Huber’s books I recommend:
- Nothing Happens Next
- That Which You Are Seeking is Causing You to Seek
- When You’re Falling, Dive
- The Key
- What You Practice is What You Have
Shocking discoveries about the Human Heart. I watched a really cool documentary that shares some inspiring and mind blowing discoveries about the human heart.
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Three factors that make us happy. I share the results of a study about what makes us happy. If you really enjoyed this video, be sure to let me know in the comments below.
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Money doesn’t make you happy.
BUT… being happy can greatly increase your chances of attracting and having more money. That’s the big illusion behind money that many are awakening to… slowly. In this article I’ll share some insights on why making more money DOES NOT make you happy.
Happiness & Money
The reason many people search for ways to earn and attract money is not because they want more money.
Well for most people it’s not the reason. They aren’t really interested in the money.
A majority of people don’t want more money… they just want to be happy. It’s the feeling of happiness they are looking for.
Let me explain.
Having money could give you the opportunity to buy a new car, pay for your home, clear your debts or even pay for your education. Having those things – a new car, home paid, debts clear or education accounted for – makes you feel a certain way… some might say it makes them feel ‘full, abundant, joyful, in control, in power, etc.’
Having the money to buy those items I mentioned above – gives you those feelings – BUT in the end, the feeling is what you’re really after.. not the money.
But most people have it backwards.
Chasing After Money
The problem is that many people believe that if they work hard, the money will follow… along with the happiness, success and those other feelings they really desire. Click here to read more…
I received some audio training from Cheri Hubert. This woman is an extraordinary teacher and trainer. I’ve learned so much just listening and making notes and absorbing her teachings. I received her training as part of the bonuses to a package I purchased from T. Harv Eker back in 2006.
Here are 3 of my most favourite quotes from Cheri Hubert…
- “Being in this moment is the most intelligent you will ever be.”
- “Being present is accepting the now.”
- “If you’re living in the moment there is nothing to believe.”
Happiness is an inside game. Learn how to play this game and life can be a lot of fun. Life can be juicy and interesting. It can be delightful and ecstatic. It can be satisfying. In this article I want to share some ideas on how you can be happy and finally relax.
Remember, our goal is happiness – that’s our target.
When we normally play the game of happiness it goes something like this. I’m going to buy this DVD, this Xbox, this piece of furniture, this car, this home, I’ll get married and have kids, and start that new business… and once I do all of that, I will finally be happy… maybe someday.
Back in 2003 I lapsed through the same mental process. I bought myself a brand new Nissan 350Z sportscar. The car was great and I loved it.
A few years later, I wasn’t so happy with the $800 monthly payments and the inconvenience of riding my bicycle in the winter just to get to the train station… just because sports cars aren’t built for Canadian winters, who knew?
My biggest realization was this: having a sportscar wasn’t going to make me happy. It was only a temporary patch. It felt nice to drive the car and I enjoyed it, but I felt that something bigger was still missing.
Being Happy Truth #1:
Anytime you rely on the outside world to make you happy, you are working with a temporary solution. Do this often enough and you create a belief system – what I call the chasing mentality – where you chase after the things you want to have because you think they will make you happy. Also read: Chasing the Dream
So many people I meet and connect with on a daily basis want to play the game of happiness – they really and sincerely want to be happy. They have read all the books on happiness and have listened to all the CD’s, but they don’t know the rules of the game.
I started my first blog with the same ignorance. Back in 2007, my goal was to earn an online income – to earn passive income from my blog. I wrote articles every month for an entire year. Hours and hours spent writing for my blog and at the end of that year I made a whopping $302.06.
Fast forward to 2010 and I now have months where I earn anywhere from $1,200 to $3,500 per month. The game hasn’t changed, but the way I play has.
Being happy is no different. If you’re going to play, learn the game. It’s a game and you need to know the rules. You need to know how to go about it so you guarantee you succeed at being happy.
Being Happy Truth #2:
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Being happy with yourself isn’t easy. The reason being happy with yourself is harder than being miserable is because being miserable has an immediate pay-off. It’s gets you instant gratification.
Think about it.
Generally speaking, people are negative. They bitch and complain. If you’re one of these people, pay attention – I’m talking to you.
The reason you do this is because it gets attention; and this attention gets the people around you to listen to you and even feel sorry for you – and when others feel sorry for you – you feel cared for and loved.
Feeling miserable is a stepping stone to this pay off – you get attention and feel loved - even if it’s only for a short period of time. Your albeit – unconscious behavior – is driven by your desire to feel loved by others.
That’s the way human behaviour works. It’s not logical, but emotionally driven and it happens automatically – without having to think about it.
It’s how we’re wired. The only reason we behave the way we do is because of this emotional pay off. We either move towards emotions that make us feel good or move away from emotions that make us feel bad.
Now think about being happy. What’s the pay off for being in a good mood?
Being Happy With Yourself Is Harder
Happiness is quite the opposite. Happiness doesn’t have an immediate pay off. Don’t you find that some people even get irritated with you when you’re feeling happy? How’s that for an immediate pay off?
An email from a reader got me thinking about happiness and being happy. As I started to think about it I realized that being happy is not about how to get happy. It’s not somewhere you go; it’s not a destination. Being happy comes from eliminating resistance so that we can be in the moment and live in the now. When you let go of the resistance then you can create happiness.
Here is a question I got via email. First I’ll share my answer to this question and then I’ll tie it back to resistance and how to take the first step to being happy:
“Do you think happiness comes from inside the person or it is always related with outside people & happenings?”
Happiness and being happy comes from your inner world. The question comes from a point of awareness. Many people aren’t in-tune with their thoughts and perceptions and don’t realize that we are simultaneously living in two worlds: an inner world and an outer world.
Happiness comes from an understanding the difference between your outer and inner worlds.
Outer World vs Inner World
The outer world is the people in your environment, the car you drive, your home, and anything that is part of the material world. This is the outer part of you. It’s everything you’ve accumulated to this point in your life. It’s the material stuff and people you’ve attracted into your life based on your predominant frequency or vibration.
The things in your outer world have no bearing on your self-worth or importance. Self worth is defined by your inner world.
Your inner world includes the thoughts, perceptions, feelings and beliefs you have about the world, other people and yourself. Both the inner world and the outer world work simultaneously to create this miracle called your reality.
“Nothing can bring you happiness but yourself.”
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
You can’t be happy in the outer world. Happiness doesn’t exist in the outer world. You can’t buy it in the grocery store. You can’t package it up and say, “Hey, here’s some happiness, I picked it up for you. Grab some while you can.”
Happiness doesn’t exist in the outer world. It only exists in the inner world.
What’s interesting is that most people have this reversed.
They laugh when I say you can’t buy happiness at the grocery store. But then they spend the majority of their adult life trying to be happy by striving to buy a bigger home, find a better partner and seek a better job – like these physical things have anything to do with happiness.
Some people will say, “I find it hard to believe that the outside world does not make you happy. I seek a new career and a new relationship. I know I would be happy if I had those things.”
While you may be content having something that you didn’t have before… this is not true happiness, but rather your reaction to the outer world. When in fact, what really makes you happy is to experience the contrast of going from not having something to having something.
But who says you need to see a physical change in the outer world before you experience that contrast?
The truth is that happiness comes from your experience of this contrast. It’s this contrast that creates your perception. You always see the outer world through your perception - which is filtered through your thoughts, feelings and the beliefs you hold about yourself, other people and the world.
Most people are re-acting to the outer world by doing. They are doing so that they can have something. But having doesn’t make you happy.
The impact of doing in order to have something leaves most people feeling miserable. It’s because we’re designed to live from BEING-DOING-HAVING instead of from doing. You’re a human being not a human doing.
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The first step to being happy is acceptance of this great truth: Nothing outside of you will ever make you happy.
The First Step to Being Happy
Back in 2001 I had a really bad mountain biking accident in Interlaken, Switzerland. I was riding on a mountain trail with a friend of mine at about 40 km/hour (25 mi/hour), I hit a bump, jammed the breaks and managed to fly like super man over the handle bars.
After taking an inventory of my body, I realized I had some serious road rash on my hands, shoulders and elbows. There was also a lot of blood all over the place leaking from my head and hands.
The look on my friends face (with his eyes bulged wide open) pretty much told the story. I was in trouble.
A year after the incident I developed a keloid on my left shoulder. When I went to the beach with friends, it made me feel embarrassed and awkward. I felt angry that I had been so stupid to get into that accident. ”What a stupid thing to do,” I thought. What’s worse is that I started to feel guilty for giving myself such a hard time.
At some point around the 3 year mark after my accident, I let it all go. I let go of my anger. I let go of my guilt. Instead of feeling miserable about how my shoulder looked, I felt lucky to have a healthy shoulder. I felt lucky to be alive. I could have died right there on the mountain.
Funny thing happened once I did that. This keloid started to retreat and shrink. It flattened out into some scar tissue that’s still around today. I go to the beach all the time and it’s always great to share my Switzerland story and how I got into this crazy accident. People love it and it’s a fun story to tell.
It took me 3 years to let go of that emotional baggage. I still have the scar but I don’t have any judgements about it. I accept it completely as it is. Not only did my skin start to heal, but I did too.
The Practice of Happiness
The practice of happiness is the practice of acceptance. This is the first step to being happy.
You want to let go of your attachments and accept things as they are. Once you accept your current situation and conditions you can create true feelings of joy. The sooner you let go of your resistance the faster things will happen and the happier you’ll be.
The practice of happiness is to continually train yourself to let go of your attachment – to let go of the way you want things to be and trust in the process of manifestation. This is the first step to being happy.
The only way to be truly happy is to let go of your resistance and your attachment – to move downstream and go with the natural current in your life.
Resistance comes from going against the current in your life. Life is trying to move downstream, but your resistance is holding you up. You might be holding on because you’re scared or even terrified of change. This attachment creates more resistance, more frustration and more pain.
The secret is to let go.
Letting Go Exercise
For the first five minutes of every day as you start to wake you want to pay attention to your thoughts. You don’t want to identify with them – you are not your thoughts. Your thoughts are just a tool that you use to help guide and direct your life. The best way to detach from your thoughts is to observe them.
It’s a simple exercise. Take the third person perspective and observe the pictures and voices in your head. As these thoughts come to you, just let them come and go. Don’t hold onto any one thought, just observe.
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Guest post published with permission from Tony Gallivan.
Life is full of beginnings. They are presented every day and every hour to every person. Most beginnings are small, and appear trivial and insignificant, but in reality they are the most important things in life.
See how in the material world everything proceeds from small beginnings. The mightiest river is at first a rivulet over which the grasshopper could leap; the great flood commences with a few drops of rain; the sturdy oak, which has endured the storms of a thousand winters, was once an acorn; and the smoldering match, carelessly dropped, may be the means of devastating a whole town by fire.
The Greatest Things Proceed from the Smallest Beginnings
Consider, also, how in the spiritual world the greatest things proceed from smallest beginnings. A light fancy may be the inception of a wonderful invention or an immortal work of art; a spoken sentence may turn the tide of history; a pure thought entertained may lead to the exercise of a world-wide regenerative power; and a momentary animal impulse may lead to the darkest crime.
Have you yet discovered the vast importance of beginnings? Do you really know what is involved in a beginning? Do you know the number of beginnings you are continuously making, and realize their full import?
If not, come with me for a short time, and thoughtfully explore this much ignored byway of blessedness, for blessed it is when wisely resorted to, and much strength and comfort it holds for the understanding mind.
A beginning is a cause, and as such it must be followed by an effect, or a train of effects, and the effect will always be of the same nature as the cause.
The nature of an initial impulse will always determine the body of its results. A beginning also presupposes an ending, a consummation, achievement, or goal. A gate leads to a path, and the path leads to some particular destination; so a beginning leads to results, and results lead to a completion.
There Are Right Beginnings and Wrong Beginnings
There are right beginnings and wrong beginnings, which are followed by effects of a like nature. You can, by careful thought, avoid wrong beginnings and make right beginnings, and so escape evil results and enjoy good results.
There are beginnings over which you have no control and authority- these are without, in the universe, in the world of nature around you, and in other people who have the same liberty as yourself.
Do not concern yourself with these beginnings, but direct your energies and attention to those beginnings over which you have complete control and authority, and which bring about the complicated web of results which compose your life.
These beginnings are to be found in the realm of your own thoughts and actions; in your mental attitude under the variety of circumstances through which you pass; in your conduct day by day – in short, in your life as you make it, which is your world of good or ill.
In aiming at the life of Blessedness one of the simplest beginnings to be considered and rightly made is that which we all make everyday – namely, the beginning of each day’s life.
Begin a Life of Blessedness
How do you begin each day? At what hour do you rise? How do you commence your duties? In what frame of mind do you enter upon the sacred life of a new day? What answer can you give your heart to these important questions?
You will find that much happiness or unhappiness follows upon the right or wrong beginning of the day, and that, when every day is wisely begun, happy and harmonious sequences will mark its course, and life in its totality will not fall far short of the ideal blessedness.
It is a right and strong beginning to the day to rise at an early hour. Even if your worldly duty does not demand it, it is wise to make of it a duty, and begin the day strongly by shaking off indolence.
How are you to develop strength of will and mind and body if you begin every day by yielding to weakness? Self-indulgence is always followed by unhappiness. People who lie in bed till a late hour are never bright and cheerful and fresh, but are the prey of irritabilities, depressions, debilities, nervous disorders, abnormal fancies, and all unhappy moods.
This is the heavy price which they have to pay for their daily indulgence.
Yet, so blinding is the pandering to self that, like the drunkard who takes his daily dram in the belief that it is bracing up the nerves which it is all the time shattering, so the lie-a-bed is convinced that long hours of ease are necessary for him as a possible remedy for those very moods and weaknesses and disorders of which his indulgence is the cause.
Men and women are totally unaware of the great losses which they entail by this common indulgence: loss of strength both of mind and body, loss of prosperity, loss of knowledge, and loss of happiness.
Begin the Day by Rising Early
Begin the day, then, by rising early. If you have no object in doing so, never mind; get up, and go out for a gentle walk among the beauties of nature, and you will experience a buoyancy, a freshness, and a delight, not to say a peace of mind, which will amply reward you for your effort.
One good effort is followed by another; and when a man begins the day by rising early, even though with no other purpose in view, he will find that the silent early hour is conducive to clearness of mind and calmness of thought, and that his early morning walk is enabling him to become a consecutive thinker, and so to see life and its problems, as well as himself and his affairs, in a clearer light; and so in time he will rise early with the express purpose of preparing and harmonizing his mind to meet any and every difficulty with wisdom and calm strength.
There is, indeed, a spiritual influence in the early morning hour, a divine silence and an inexpressible repose, and he who, purposeful and strong, throws off the mantle of ease and climbs the hills to greet the morning sun will thereby climb no inconsiderable distance up the hills of blessedness and truth.
The right beginning of the day will be followed by cheerfulness at the morning meal, permeating the house-hold with a sunny influence; and the tasks and duties of the day will be undertaken in a strong and confident spirit, and the whole day will be well lived.
Then there is a sense in which every day may be regarded as the beginning of a new life, in which one can think, act, and live newly, and in a wiser and better spirit.
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This is a guest post from Teri @ The Bliss Network.
Have you heard of the bestselling book, “Happy For No Reason” by Marci Shimoff?
When I read that book for the first time, I totally got what she was saying about happiness set points and some people just naturally being happy.
My name is Teri Williams and I am “Happy For No Reason”. In fact, most people know me as “The Bliss Lady”.
Now, I’m not saying that I’m in a great mood every nano second. I’m human and I get upset, frustrated and a little p.o’d just like everyone else.
The difference is, I’ve learned to let those feelings and emotions last for mere moments instead of days on end. How do I do it? I practice every day by following my Blissness Plan!
Blissness Plan? What’s that?
You’ve heard of a business plan, right? Similar to a business plan, the Blissness Plan is a simple, basic guide to move you closer to your own bliss.
Wouldn’t it be nice to just breathe through a negative moment and pay closer attention to what really matters?
The Blissness Plan contains 12 action steps to take, one each month, designed to help you on the path to bliss. Most of the steps are common concepts that we all know but don’t generally follow. It’s really up to us to create the life of our dreams.
Download Teri’s 12 Steps to Happiness and start following your bliss today!
Teri Williams empowers others to live the life of their dreams. She is a humanitarian and entrepreneur who works to help people grow their businesses and enhance their lives by connecting them to People, Resources, Opportunities and Strategies. Visit The Bliss Network where we guide, mentor and inspire each other to live a blissful life!
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