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Mar

12

Law of Gender

March 12, 2009 | 2 Comments


The law of gender is one of several Universal Laws.  This law is also commonly known as the law of gestation and explains the process of moving from seeds of thought to creating physical results.  The law of gender can be stated as follows…

Law of Gender

Every seed of thought has a gestation or incubation period.  This seed of thought will move into form or physical results when the time is right.  Know it will.

Because of my engineering background, I like to think of the law of gender as a process.  It’s the cycle or natural process in nature that is fundamental to the law of gender.  Consider these commonly known processes:

  • A woman is normally pregnant for 9 months.
  • The Earth orbits the sun every 365 days.
  • The lining in your stomach gets replaced every few days.
  • If you donate a pint (473 ml) of blood, it takes 4-6 weeks to regenerate.
  • It takes approximately 90-100 days to grow tomatoes from seed to harvest.

In each of these examples, there is a specific time period that elapses before physical results are produced.  You wouldn’t expect a woman to give birth in 3 months, would you?  I hope not because you know that it takes 9 months for a pregnancy.

Likewise, you wouldn’t expect to plant seeds and have ripe tomatoes after 21 days.  It takes 90-100 days to harvest tomatoes from the seed.  It’s all part of the creative process.

The Law of Gender as a Process

But for some reason, we don’t think this way.  We want everything NOW – we want results and in some cases we wanted them yesterday.  We get impatient and forget that nature moves in cycles and is part of a bigger process.

“Understand how true it is that most people overestimate what they can accomplish in a year – and underestimate what they can achieve in a decade!” ~ Anthony Robbins

Your thoughts and feelings are part of this process.  If you feel bad right now, change the thought.  Change the thought and you change the feeling.  You won’t feel good instantly, but you will eventually.  It must happen because it’s part of the process governed by the law of gender.

The Law of Gender and Goal Setting

When it comes to goal setting and goal achievement, the same rules apply.  All ideas and seeds of thought have an incubation period; a rate of maturing that cultivates a new idea.  This idea will then take the shape of feelings and actions towards creating that idea.  And once you take action, physical results will always follow.  It’s all part of the process or the law of gender.  Your goals will manifest when the time is right - know they will.

Let’s take the tomato plant as an example.  Some people plant their tomato seeds.  Then after some time they don’t bother to water the soil.  They don’t trim the weeds and carefully nourish the plant.  They don’t follow the process of nurturing and cultivating the seeds.  They don’t give it any energy and then what happens?

You guessed it – the plant dies.

People will do this with their goals all the time.  Maybe we have an idea or goal in mind and so we start.  We write down our goal and stick it on the mirror in the bathroom.  We get really excited about this goal and believe it can happen.

But then what happens?  The goal isn’t nourished and given energy.  We don’t visualize and affirm this goal.  We don’t take daily action towards this goal and then the goal dies.

Now give this some thought:  If you were responsible for a small babe, would you abandon the babe?

You probably think I’m nuts, right?  You would never abandon a babe because it’s so small, fragile and innocent.  It needs love and attention to grow and nourish.  It can’t survive on it’s own – and the same is true with your goals.

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Feb

23

Don’t Read this Post, It Might Change Your Life

February 23, 2009 | Leave a Comment


This post might change your life.  That sounds like a pretty big promise, don’t you think?  If you keep reading, you’ll see why.

Attention is everything when it comes to being creative.  When you focus your attention on your vision with purpose and power – all other versions of your life fall away.

  • Your obstacles fall away.
  • Your old mental programs fall away.
  • Your false beliefs fall away.
  • Your past conditioning falls away.
  • Your problems fall away.
  • Your debt falls away.
  • Your concerns fall away.
  • Your fears fall away.
  • Your worries fall away.
  • Your doubt falls away.

All of these preconditioned areas of your life fall away.  They dissolve into nothingness.  Why?

Because you don’t give them power.  You don’t soil the seeds of doubt, the seeds of worry, the seeds of fear or the seeds of concern.  You don’t put energy into these areas of your life.  The only way you can give something energy is by your attention.  Your attention is everything.

If you pay real good attention to your spouse, girlfriend or boyfriend, what happens?  You get more attention back.  It’s no mystery.  You can create that real synergy and excitement that comes from being in a loving and caring relationship.  You do it by your attention.

Why would it be any different in other areas?

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Feb

17

Self-Confidence

February 17, 2009 | 1 Comment


Self-confidence is the confidence in one’s abilities, skills and belief in one’s self.  Building self-confidence comes from having a new experience of yourself.  Each time you have a new experience, you are creating a new launching pad to take bigger and bigger actions; and reap greater results.

Self-Confidence

Self-confidence is rooted in our reference experiences. Anytime we have an experience that is new or different from one that we’ve had before, there is an opening to create a reference experience.  This new platform provides us with a launching pad to dive into greater and greater experiences.

Reference experience – a highly emotional experience we refer to validate new actions.

Anytime we create a new reference experience, we build our confidence globally in all areas of our life.  When one area expands, all areas expand. I’ve done this with writing, coaching and speaking.

Here’s how I created new Stepping Stones to Build Self-Confidence in my writing:

Ref Experience No. 1: Before I started writing this blog, I had no previous writing experience.  I wrote emails to friends and to co-workers, but that was about it.  I didn’t journal, I didn’t doodle, I didn’t write.  In high school my grades in English literature were subpar (70-79%).  Then something weird happened.

Ref Experience No. 2: I published an article in Confidence Bound Magazine.  That took me by surprise and it also created a new reference experience.  My confidence soared.  I wasn’t just an engineer anymore – I was published as an author in a magazine.

This new reference platform changed what I believe about myself.  It gave me a new platform to experience myself; a reference experience.  I started to think of what else I could do, not only in writing but in other areas of my life as well.  The gates of possibility began to open.

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Jan

26

3 Steps to Uncover Your False Beliefs

January 26, 2009 | 3 Comments


This is the last of three videos on uncovering false beliefs. In this video we’ll go through a simple 3 step exercise to bring your unconscious blocks to the surface. Once you do this you can then re-evaluate them and decide who you really are.

Here are the three steps I’ll cover in the video:

3 Steps to Uncover False Beliefs:

  1. Identify the Area Not Working: this is an area that you are avoiding or resisting.
  2. Surface Your Blind Spots: Become clear on your reasons why you’re resisting this area of your life.
  3. Re-evaluate your Reasons: Are they justified? Are they built on a solid foundation?  What is the impact these reasons are having on your life?

Here’s the video:

To learn an extremely useful technique for seeding new beliefs see: Unconscious Mind Power Series 2

Jan

25

How to Uncover Your False Beliefs

January 25, 2009 | 20 Comments


In my very first video post I talk about false beliefs.  In this case these are your mental blocks that hold you back.  These are the areas in your life that you don’t know that you don’t know. Landmark Education spends a good portion of their education exploring this:  what you don’t know you don’t know.

In this video, I’m going to show you exactly what I mean by a false belief or what I like to call a “blind spot.”  Specifically, I’m going to give you an exercise to demonstrate what a blind spot really is.  The exercise was taken from The Holographic Universe ~ Michael Talbot

Here’s the 2nd video:

Text Instructions – Holographic Universe Exercise (in video):

To demonstrate how our brains construct what we perceive as reality, hold the illustration at eye level, close your left eye, and stare at the circle in the middle of the grid with your right eye.  Slowly move your head back and forth along the line of your vision until the star vanishes (about 10 – 15 inches).  The star disappears because it is falling on your blind spot.  Now close your right eye and stare at the star.  Move back and forth until the circle in the middle of the grid vanishes.  When it does, notice that although the circle disappears, all the lines of the grid remain intact.  This is because your brain is filling in what it thinks should be there. ~ Michael Talbot, The Holographic Universe

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Jan

24

Do You Have Mental Blocks and Limiting Beliefs?

January 24, 2009 | 5 Comments


“People only see what they are prepared to see.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

This is the first in a series of three videos on mental blocks and false beliefs.  In this series I’ll share with you a three step process to uncover these mental blocks o you can live the greater, grander you.

In the first video I’ll share:

  • how to know which area of your life is being run unconsciously (or a potential blind spot)
  • my biggest mental blocks and what happened when I became aware of them

Here’s the first video:


Make sure to watch the next video here: How to Uncover Your False Beliefs

Jan

21

How to Visualize Intimacy

January 21, 2009 | 3 Comments


This exercise is so much fun.  It’s been over 2 years since I completed my NLP practitioner, but I’ve got to say that once you practice this visualization – it gets much easier.  Repetition is the mother of learning.

As I point out in the video, it’s easy for me to pull up images of loved ones in a snap – and you can too – if you practice visualizing them through your own eyes.

If you have any questions, you know what to do – speak your mind!

Swishing Steve

Dec

23

Personal Growth Series: 3 of 5

December 23, 2008 | 6 Comments


Let’s skip a few years and get to my more recent experience.  In 2005 I officially started my personal growth journey and later in 2006 I participated in the Landmark Forum.  At the time I was completely frustrated with my career and needed a change.  I changed alright, but it didn’t happen the way I expected.

2005, Career Change Inevitable

In was 2005 and at that time I had been working as an engineer for about four years.  I wanted to leave the profession, but I felt stuck.  I kept thinking, “there has got to be more to life than this.”  I felt empty inside.  I didn’t feel like my life had any meaning.

You see, I went to school for 5 years.  Four years of academics plus one year of work experience during my undergraduate studies.  I felt guilty with the idea of leaving a profession where I spent so much time preparing and learning.  It seemed like a waste.  So instead of doing something about it, I remained idle and miserable.

At the time Trisha began to catch on.  She new something was up so we started talking.  I remember our conversation as clear as day.  Trisha and I were talking in the car on our drive up to Sudbury.

Trisha: “Steve, are you unhappy?  What seems to be the matter?”

Steve: “I hate working as a project manager and engineer.  There is something missing, something else I should be doing.”

Trisha: “Well, what do you want to do?”

Steve: “I don’t know.  Something else, not what I’m doing now.”

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