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How to Deal With Negative People and Their Negative Thoughts
November 16, 2009 by Steve
Don’t you just love it, when you tell someone you’re going to do something that’s never been done before and they say, “You can’t do that!” And then somehow that idea seem to stick in your head, playing over and over again.
Know what I mean?
How to Deal With Negative People (and their Negative Thoughts)
The real trick is recognize what I call your conditioned response. You see, sometimes another person will say something and that triggers the PLAY button to one of a million mental programs. This isn’t true for everyone, but you might want to take this little test first to be sure.
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[..YouTube..] I usually say “um, yes, I can actually.” lol
[..YouTube..] Good on ya!
[..YouTube..] good thing i watched till the end because when you said picture your mothers voice lol my mothers the one who passes uneccery comments :L
[..YouTube..] @03mrobinson:
I know exactly what you’re talking about ;)
[..YouTube..] thats just women though i guess
[..YouTube..] ur an idiot! lol Just kidding lol great video
[..YouTube..] This technique is beyond retarded. Complete waste of time. The problems associated with people feeling an affinity towards negative people is a serious lack of self-esteem and self love. The only way to get those negative voices and negative people out of your life is to get out of the negative rut you’re in and believing in yourself.
[..YouTube..] check out my video on dealing with haters i have alot of them LOL
[..YouTube..] check out my video on dealing with haters i have alot of them LOL
[..YouTube..] check out my video on dealing with haters i have alot of them LOL
[..YouTube..] check out my video on dealing with haters i have alot of them LOL
[..YouTube..] @draganamirkovic7 I’m not necessarily disagreeing with you but I can tell you’re a negative nancy yourself. There’s a difference between discerning and judging – you seem to like to judge. Not exactly on a straight road to positivity buddy.
[..YouTube..] @draganamirkovic7 I’m not necessarily disagreeing with you but I can tell you’re a negative nancy yourself. There’s a difference between discerning and judging – you seem to like to judge. Not exactly on a straight road to positivity buddy.
[..YouTube..] @draganamirkovic7 I’m not necessarily disagreeing with you but I can tell you’re a negative nancy yourself. There’s a difference between discerning and judging – you seem to like to judge. Not exactly on a straight road to positivity buddy.
[..YouTube..] @draganamirkovic7 I’m not necessarily disagreeing with you but I can tell you’re a negative nancy yourself. There’s a difference between discerning and judging – you seem to like to judge. Not exactly on a straight road to positivity buddy.
[..YouTube..] @draganamirkovic7 I’m not necessarily disagreeing with you but I can tell you’re a negative nancy yourself. There’s a difference between discerning and judging – you seem to like to judge. Not exactly on a straight road to positivity buddy.
[..YouTube..] thanks for the advice… =)
[..YouTube..] thanks for the advice… =)
[..YouTube..] thanks for the advice… =)
[..YouTube..] thanks for the advice… =)
[..YouTube..] thanks for the advice… =)
[..YouTube..] thanks for the advice… =)
[..YouTube..] @cosmicsparkle:
Your welcome :-)
Steve
[..YouTube..] @cosmicsparkle:
Your welcome :-)
Steve
[..YouTube..] @cosmicsparkle:
Your welcome :-)
Steve
[..YouTube..] Very good technique. Will try it
[..YouTube..] Very good technique. Will try it
[..YouTube..] Very good technique. Will try it
[..YouTube..] Very good technique. Will try it
[..YouTube..] @Digzezimaox Hahaha this caught me by surprise
[..YouTube..] @Digzezimaox Hahaha this caught me by surprise
[..YouTube..] @Digzezimaox Hahaha this caught me by surprise
[..YouTube..] @Digzezimaox Hahaha this caught me by surprise
[..YouTube..] @Digzezimaox Hahaha this caught me by surprise
[..YouTube..] @Digzezimaox Hahaha this caught me by surprise
This is an excellent technique and your absolutely right about the tone! When I have something I am in bad habit of I start acknowledging it in funny high and low voices until it’s so ridiculous and desensitized it doesn’t mean anything.
[..YouTube..] @Digzezimaox Hahaha this caught me by surprise
This is an excellent technique and your absolutely right about the tone! When I have something I am in bad habit of I start acknowledging it in funny high and low voices until it’s so ridiculous and desensitized it doesn’t mean anything.
[..YouTube..] @Digzezimaox Hahaha this caught me by surprise
This is an excellent technique and your absolutely right about the tone! When I have something I am in bad habit of I start acknowledging it in funny high and low voices until it’s so ridiculous and desensitized it doesn’t mean anything.
[..YouTube..] @Digzezimaox Hahaha this caught me by surprise
This is an excellent technique and your absolutely right about the tone! When I have something I am in bad habit of I start acknowledging it in funny high and low voices until it’s so ridiculous and desensitized it doesn’t mean anything.
[..YouTube..] @Digzezimaox Hahaha this caught me by surprise
This is an excellent technique and your absolutely right about the tone! When I have something I am in bad habit of I start acknowledging it in funny high and low voices until it’s so ridiculous and desensitized it doesn’t mean anything.
[..YouTube..] @Digzezimaox Hahaha this caught me by surprise
This is an excellent technique and your absolutely right about the tone! When I have something I am in bad habit of I start acknowledging it in funny high and low voices until it’s so ridiculous and desensitized it doesn’t mean anything.
[..YouTube..] This video didn’t help me, it only offended me by talking about my dead mother :(
[..YouTube..] This video didn’t help me, it only offended me by talking about my dead mother :(
[..YouTube..] This video didn’t help me, it only offended me by talking about my dead mother :(
[..YouTube..] This video didn’t help me, it only offended me by talking about my dead mother :(
[..YouTube..] This video didn’t help me, it only offended me by talking about my dead mother :(
[..YouTube..] You are awesome!!!! Thank you!!! :)))) Great technic!
[..YouTube..] You are awesome!!!! Thank you!!! :)))) Great technic!
[..YouTube..] You are awesome!!!! Thank you!!! :)))) Great technic!
[..YouTube..] You are awesome!!!! Thank you!!! :)))) Great technic!
[..YouTube..] Just wanted to try something and see how it works out, so here it goes… on Monday, October 4th 2010 compliment 5 people you don’t know and forward this message to friends. Let’s see how far this spreads.
[..YouTube..] Just wanted to try something and see how it works out, so here it goes… on Monday, October 4th 2010 compliment 5 people you don’t know and forward this message to friends. Let’s see how far this spreads.
[..YouTube..] Just wanted to try something and see how it works out, so here it goes… on Monday, October 4th 2010 compliment 5 people you don’t know and forward this message to friends. Let’s see how far this spreads.
[..YouTube..] Just wanted to try something and see how it works out, so here it goes… on Monday, October 4th 2010 compliment 5 people you don’t know and forward this message to friends. Let’s see how far this spreads.
[..YouTube..] Just wanted to try something and see how it works out, so here it goes… on Monday, October 4th 2010 compliment 5 people you don’t know and forward this message to friends. Let’s see how far this spreads.
[..YouTube..] Just wanted to try something and see how it works out, so here it goes… on Monday, October 4th 2010 compliment 5 people you don’t know and forward this message to friends. Let’s see how far this spreads.
[..YouTube..] this was very enlightening. I realised i automatically believe to be true whatever my mum says to me! great video. next time gotta put that negative voice in a homer voice! haha.
[..YouTube..] this was very enlightening. I realised i automatically believe to be true whatever my mum says to me! great video. next time gotta put that negative voice in a homer voice! haha.
[..YouTube..] this was very enlightening. I realised i automatically believe to be true whatever my mum says to me! great video. next time gotta put that negative voice in a homer voice! haha.
[..YouTube..] this was very enlightening. I realised i automatically believe to be true whatever my mum says to me! great video. next time gotta put that negative voice in a homer voice! haha.
[..YouTube..] this was very enlightening. I realised i automatically believe to be true whatever my mum says to me! great video. next time gotta put that negative voice in a homer voice! haha.
[..YouTube..] this was very enlightening. I realised i automatically believe to be true whatever my mum says to me! great video. next time gotta put that negative voice in a homer voice! haha.
[..YouTube..] Great video
[..YouTube..] Great video
[..YouTube..] Great video
[..YouTube..] i need some one like this to advice me
[..YouTube..] i need some one like this to advice me
[..YouTube..] i need some one like this to advice me
[..YouTube..] i need some one like this to advice me
[..YouTube..] i need some one like this to advice me
[..YouTube..] That’s incredible, thankyou very much!
[..YouTube..] That’s incredible, thankyou very much!
[..YouTube..] That’s incredible, thankyou very much!
[..YouTube..] That’s incredible, thankyou very much!
[..YouTube..] I love this technique! I took a Psychology of Personal Effectiveness class that taught “reframing” which is exactly what you’re advising! Its very cool because there are many ways to do it. I find your technique works wonders!
[..YouTube..] I love this technique! I took a Psychology of Personal Effectiveness class that taught “reframing” which is exactly what you’re advising! Its very cool because there are many ways to do it. I find your technique works wonders!
[..YouTube..] I love this technique! I took a Psychology of Personal Effectiveness class that taught “reframing” which is exactly what you’re advising! Its very cool because there are many ways to do it. I find your technique works wonders!
[..YouTube..] I love this technique! I took a Psychology of Personal Effectiveness class that taught “reframing” which is exactly what you’re advising! Its very cool because there are many ways to do it. I find your technique works wonders!
[..YouTube..] I love this technique! I took a Psychology of Personal Effectiveness class that taught “reframing” which is exactly what you’re advising! Its very cool because there are many ways to do it. I find your technique works wonders!
[..YouTube..] I love this technique! I took a Psychology of Personal Effectiveness class that taught “reframing” which is exactly what you’re advising! Its very cool because there are many ways to do it. I find your technique works wonders!
[..YouTube..] This is what helped me from an abusive father… whenever he tells me something like… I’m stupid… I just respond by saying…. Well dad. Look at your own shitty life and how fucked up it turned out to be…. you think your opinion is worth for shit???
To be honest, I haven’t found any successful person being negative, only failures tend to be negative and drag others down with them so that they don’t feel too bad about themselves.
[..YouTube..] This is what helped me from an abusive father… whenever he tells me something like… I’m stupid… I just respond by saying…. Well dad. Look at your own shitty life and how fucked up it turned out to be…. you think your opinion is worth for shit???
To be honest, I haven’t found any successful person being negative, only failures tend to be negative and drag others down with them so that they don’t feel too bad about themselves.
[..YouTube..] This is what helped me from an abusive father… whenever he tells me something like… I’m stupid… I just respond by saying…. Well dad. Look at your own shitty life and how fucked up it turned out to be…. you think your opinion is worth for shit???
To be honest, I haven’t found any successful person being negative, only failures tend to be negative and drag others down with them so that they don’t feel too bad about themselves.
[..YouTube..] This is what helped me from an abusive father… whenever he tells me something like… I’m stupid… I just respond by saying…. Well dad. Look at your own shitty life and how fucked up it turned out to be…. you think your opinion is worth for shit???
To be honest, I haven’t found any successful person being negative, only failures tend to be negative and drag others down with them so that they don’t feel too bad about themselves.
[..YouTube..] This is what helped me from an abusive father… whenever he tells me something like… I’m stupid… I just respond by saying…. Well dad. Look at your own shitty life and how fucked up it turned out to be…. you think your opinion is worth for shit???
To be honest, I haven’t found any successful person being negative, only failures tend to be negative and drag others down with them so that they don’t feel too bad about themselves.
[..YouTube..] This is what helped me from an abusive father… whenever he tells me something like… I’m stupid… I just respond by saying…. Well dad. Look at your own shitty life and how fucked up it turned out to be…. you think your opinion is worth for shit???
To be honest, I haven’t found any successful person being negative, only failures tend to be negative and drag others down with them so that they don’t feel too bad about themselves.
[..YouTube..] @Simon0
I just hope that you go to college and break free from the chains that your family try to lock you up in. That’s what happened to me. College set me free from all of the negatively in my life. My own family is the poison and the road they tried to put my on was one that they can look down on so that they can feel good about themselves and not feel like a complete failure in comparison to the failure that they tried to make of me. I no longer care for them… they are like retards.
[..YouTube..] @Simon0
I just hope that you go to college and break free from the chains that your family try to lock you up in. That’s what happened to me. College set me free from all of the negatively in my life. My own family is the poison and the road they tried to put my on was one that they can look down on so that they can feel good about themselves and not feel like a complete failure in comparison to the failure that they tried to make of me. I no longer care for them… they are like retards.
[..YouTube..] @Simon0
I just hope that you go to college and break free from the chains that your family try to lock you up in. That’s what happened to me. College set me free from all of the negatively in my life. My own family is the poison and the road they tried to put my on was one that they can look down on so that they can feel good about themselves and not feel like a complete failure in comparison to the failure that they tried to make of me. I no longer care for them… they are like retards.
[..YouTube..] @Simon0
I just hope that you go to college and break free from the chains that your family try to lock you up in. That’s what happened to me. College set me free from all of the negatively in my life. My own family is the poison and the road they tried to put my on was one that they can look down on so that they can feel good about themselves and not feel like a complete failure in comparison to the failure that they tried to make of me. I no longer care for them… they are like retards.
[..YouTube..] @Simon0
I just hope that you go to college and break free from the chains that your family try to lock you up in. That’s what happened to me. College set me free from all of the negatively in my life. My own family is the poison and the road they tried to put my on was one that they can look down on so that they can feel good about themselves and not feel like a complete failure in comparison to the failure that they tried to make of me. I no longer care for them… they are like retards.
[..YouTube..] @Simon0
I just hope that you go to college and break free from the chains that your family try to lock you up in. That’s what happened to me. College set me free from all of the negatively in my life. My own family is the poison and the road they tried to put my on was one that they can look down on so that they can feel good about themselves and not feel like a complete failure in comparison to the failure that they tried to make of me. I no longer care for them… they are like retards.
[..YouTube..] @nickintp my dad has been quite cruel to me in the past. i never quite understand it because i am sure he loves me yet he can also be quite cruel. Anyway great that college helped you. sometimes being aroudn group of friendly people can be very healing.
[..YouTube..] @nickintp my dad has been quite cruel to me in the past. i never quite understand it because i am sure he loves me yet he can also be quite cruel. Anyway great that college helped you. sometimes being aroudn group of friendly people can be very healing.
[..YouTube..] @nickintp my dad has been quite cruel to me in the past. i never quite understand it because i am sure he loves me yet he can also be quite cruel. Anyway great that college helped you. sometimes being aroudn group of friendly people can be very healing.
[..YouTube..] @nickintp my dad has been quite cruel to me in the past. i never quite understand it because i am sure he loves me yet he can also be quite cruel. Anyway great that college helped you. sometimes being aroudn group of friendly people can be very healing.
[..YouTube..] @nickintp my dad has been quite cruel to me in the past. i never quite understand it because i am sure he loves me yet he can also be quite cruel. Anyway great that college helped you. sometimes being aroudn group of friendly people can be very healing.
[..YouTube..] I’ve seen several videos and I love them. Your advice is really solid. Besides that, I laughed for like 10 minutes about the silliness of changing someones voice to Homer Simpsons voice. Pure genius.
Keep it up.
[..YouTube..] I’ve seen several videos and I love them. Your advice is really solid. Besides that, I laughed for like 10 minutes about the silliness of changing someones voice to Homer Simpsons voice. Pure genius.
Keep it up.
[..YouTube..] I’ve seen several videos and I love them. Your advice is really solid. Besides that, I laughed for like 10 minutes about the silliness of changing someones voice to Homer Simpsons voice. Pure genius.
Keep it up.
[..YouTube..] I’ve seen several videos and I love them. Your advice is really solid. Besides that, I laughed for like 10 minutes about the silliness of changing someones voice to Homer Simpsons voice. Pure genius.
Keep it up.
[..YouTube..] I’ve seen several videos and I love them. Your advice is really solid. Besides that, I laughed for like 10 minutes about the silliness of changing someones voice to Homer Simpsons voice. Pure genius.
Keep it up.
[..YouTube..] I’ve seen several videos and I love them. Your advice is really solid. Besides that, I laughed for like 10 minutes about the silliness of changing someones voice to Homer Simpsons voice. Pure genius.
Keep it up.
[..YouTube..] @EenGedachte: yeah, that Homer Simpson one is good :)
[..YouTube..] @EenGedachte: yeah, that Homer Simpson one is good :)
[..YouTube..] @EenGedachte: yeah, that Homer Simpson one is good :)
[..YouTube..] @EenGedachte: yeah, that Homer Simpson one is good :)
[..YouTube..] @EenGedachte: yeah, that Homer Simpson one is good :)
[..YouTube..] Easy lesson, I must try that out. Ive read if someone says something negative bout you or you think bad bout yourself: add the words “But Iam(he,she,they) just thinking that” in your mind. It works like a defensive shield…
[..YouTube..] Easy lesson, I must try that out. Ive read if someone says something negative bout you or you think bad bout yourself: add the words “But Iam(he,she,they) just thinking that” in your mind. It works like a defensive shield…
[..YouTube..] Easy lesson, I must try that out. Ive read if someone says something negative bout you or you think bad bout yourself: add the words “But Iam(he,she,they) just thinking that” in your mind. It works like a defensive shield…
[..YouTube..] Easy lesson, I must try that out. Ive read if someone says something negative bout you or you think bad bout yourself: add the words “But Iam(he,she,they) just thinking that” in your mind. It works like a defensive shield…
[..YouTube..] Easy lesson, I must try that out. Ive read if someone says something negative bout you or you think bad bout yourself: add the words “But Iam(he,she,they) just thinking that” in your mind. It works like a defensive shield…
[..YouTube..] Easy lesson, I must try that out. Ive read if someone says something negative bout you or you think bad bout yourself: add the words “But Iam(he,she,they) just thinking that” in your mind. It works like a defensive shield…
[..YouTube..] :’)
[..YouTube..] :’)
[..YouTube..] see my problem is that peopel in my family r positive, but biggest bully is my own mind who says: “oh u did that way? u could do this better, alas, u created a bad image, what is he or she thinking, they might hate u by now”….
[..YouTube..] see my problem is that peopel in my family r positive, but biggest bully is my own mind who says: “oh u did that way? u could do this better, alas, u created a bad image, what is he or she thinking, they might hate u by now”….
[..YouTube..] see my problem is that peopel in my family r positive, but biggest bully is my own mind who says: “oh u did that way? u could do this better, alas, u created a bad image, what is he or she thinking, they might hate u by now”….
[..YouTube..] see my problem is that peopel in my family r positive, but biggest bully is my own mind who says: “oh u did that way? u could do this better, alas, u created a bad image, what is he or she thinking, they might hate u by now”….
[..YouTube..] see my problem is that peopel in my family r positive, but biggest bully is my own mind who says: “oh u did that way? u could do this better, alas, u created a bad image, what is he or she thinking, they might hate u by now”….
[..YouTube..] see my problem is that peopel in my family r positive, but biggest bully is my own mind who says: “oh u did that way? u could do this better, alas, u created a bad image, what is he or she thinking, they might hate u by now”….
[..YouTube..] damn for some reason i felt like really angry trying theese techniques with phrase in my head “ You cant do that“ from mom , dad etc. and than H.S. lol that was the last drop so , the point is if i was in a lets say kickboxing match ,which is my sport by the way , i would fuckin kill the dude in the ring lol …. maybe this shit is dangerous :)
[..YouTube..] damn for some reason i felt like really angry trying theese techniques with phrase in my head “ You cant do that“ from mom , dad etc. and than H.S. lol that was the last drop so , the point is if i was in a lets say kickboxing match ,which is my sport by the way , i would fuckin kill the dude in the ring lol …. maybe this shit is dangerous :)
[..YouTube..] damn for some reason i felt like really angry trying theese techniques with phrase in my head “ You cant do that“ from mom , dad etc. and than H.S. lol that was the last drop so , the point is if i was in a lets say kickboxing match ,which is my sport by the way , i would fuckin kill the dude in the ring lol …. maybe this shit is dangerous :)
[..YouTube..] damn for some reason i felt like really angry trying theese techniques with phrase in my head “ You cant do that“ from mom , dad etc. and than H.S. lol that was the last drop so , the point is if i was in a lets say kickboxing match ,which is my sport by the way , i would fuckin kill the dude in the ring lol …. maybe this shit is dangerous :)
[..YouTube..] damn for some reason i felt like really angry trying theese techniques with phrase in my head “ You cant do that“ from mom , dad etc. and than H.S. lol that was the last drop so , the point is if i was in a lets say kickboxing match ,which is my sport by the way , i would fuckin kill the dude in the ring lol …. maybe this shit is dangerous :)
[..YouTube..] damn for some reason i felt like really angry trying theese techniques with phrase in my head “ You cant do that“ from mom , dad etc. and than H.S. lol that was the last drop so , the point is if i was in a lets say kickboxing match ,which is my sport by the way , i would fuckin kill the dude in the ring lol …. maybe this shit is dangerous :)
[..YouTube..] Oh man…
This ties in completely to my previous comment about how your advice was made to turn people into mindless positive idiots. So you’re saying that all other negative comments do not affect you except “you’re an idiot”? “You’re an idiot” is the one thing that RESONATES with you? That little “voice” is your CONSCIENCE!!… HAHAHAHAHA…
[..YouTube..] Oh man…
This ties in completely to my previous comment about how your advice was made to turn people into mindless positive idiots. So you’re saying that all other negative comments do not affect you except “you’re an idiot”? “You’re an idiot” is the one thing that RESONATES with you? That little “voice” is your CONSCIENCE!!… HAHAHAHAHA…
[..YouTube..] Oh man…
This ties in completely to my previous comment about how your advice was made to turn people into mindless positive idiots. So you’re saying that all other negative comments do not affect you except “you’re an idiot”? “You’re an idiot” is the one thing that RESONATES with you? That little “voice” is your CONSCIENCE!!… HAHAHAHAHA…
[..YouTube..] Oh man…
This ties in completely to my previous comment about how your advice was made to turn people into mindless positive idiots. So you’re saying that all other negative comments do not affect you except “you’re an idiot”? “You’re an idiot” is the one thing that RESONATES with you? That little “voice” is your CONSCIENCE!!… HAHAHAHAHA…
[..YouTube..] Oh man…
This ties in completely to my previous comment about how your advice was made to turn people into mindless positive idiots. So you’re saying that all other negative comments do not affect you except “you’re an idiot”? “You’re an idiot” is the one thing that RESONATES with you? That little “voice” is your CONSCIENCE!!… HAHAHAHAHA…
[..YouTube..] Oh man…
This ties in completely to my previous comment about how your advice was made to turn people into mindless positive idiots. So you’re saying that all other negative comments do not affect you except “you’re an idiot”? “You’re an idiot” is the one thing that RESONATES with you? That little “voice” is your CONSCIENCE!!… HAHAHAHAHA…
[..YouTube..] super tip… a great guy really
[..YouTube..] super tip… a great guy really
I did not watch the video but read it.
My room mate was negative at least towards me, asking me a lof of questions, also very personal ones. I did answer them as I dont know how not to answer them, and than she made few times comments that hurt me. Another time I said,, I will do this, or that.. and than no matter what I said her response was ,, Do you think it is that easy,, someone I know did this and .. bla bla /…. ANSWER was negative…. I am at the point that I stopped believeng in myself and I am so down..Feel like I can not do any job ……Do not wish that to anyone. I want to run from her , but I am stuck for now……for financial reasons….
Hey Martha… stop telling her what you’re going to do… and just quietly go and do it!
[..YouTube..] most people issues and complexes are due to family environment,lack of parenthood awarness or understanding of the effect of psychology on their childrens ,that’s beside schools,friends,traditions,religions and societies.i think to break the cycle of thoughts, that causes doubt,fear,guilt or any other emotion that cause our mind to create our own delusional realities,is to direct your focus inward by stoping from talking to your mind and listenening more to your breath.The sound of silence.
[..YouTube..] most people issues and complexes are due to family environment,lack of parenthood awarness or understanding of the effect of psychology on their childrens ,that’s beside schools,friends,traditions,religions and societies.i think to break the cycle of thoughts, that causes doubt,fear,guilt or any other emotion that cause our mind to create our own delusional realities,is to direct your focus inward by stoping from talking to your mind and listenening more to your breath.The sound of silence.