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How to Detach Yourself From Your Desired Outcome
November 23, 2009 by Steve
Sometimes one of the hardest things to do when aspiring to achieve new goals is to just let them go. I know there have been times when I tried everything I could do to make something happen, except for the easiest thing – to just let it go. And sometimes the easiest things are the most effective.
In this video I’ll share what it means to be attached and how to detach yourself from your desired outcome.
How to Detach Yourself From Your Desired Outcome
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93 Comments so far
Hey Steve,
Thanks for this video. I’ve been in a funk for the last few days because I haven’t been able to surf and a few other things in my life. But this made me feel alot better.
Thanks so much Steve for your vedio. I know what you mean. I will try my best on this. Slowly getting there. I will keep you posted. Hope you have a happy holiday.
Hi Cindy,
Letting go is an art form that comes with practice. Like I said in the video, it’s something I still struggle with at times.
Sometimes the only thing for us to do is to just let go….
Steve,
Your video could not have come at a better time. I didn’t achieve a specific goal I’d been working towards over the past 6 months and was wondering what I did wrong. This provides more clarity and has been immensely helpful. Thanks as always! You are do a great service to the people who subscribe to your blog.
Happy holidays!
T
This is wonderful- you hit the nail on the head with this one! Thank you, Steve!
Nicely stated! Can you share an article on http://intuitivemeaning.com ?
Hi Renee,
You can email me privately if you’d like to use my articles on your site. I don’t have a copyright policy, but do ask that all websites use my byline and link back to my blog at the end of the article.
Steve
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[..YouTube..] Amazing! I’m always doing that…guess I need to stop overthinking.
[..YouTube..] Amazing! I’m always doing that…guess I need to stop overthinking.
Amazing! I’m always doing that…guess I need to stop overthinking.
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good advice my friend
[...] not, it’s because we’ve become attached to our outcome.  As I explain in my video How to Detach From Your Desired Outcome sometimes the fastest way to get what you want is by letting it [...]
[...] committed is quite different.  You’re detached from the outcome.  You act effectively with the end in mind. You’re open to possibility [...]
Hi Steve,
Is thinking about what you want the same as attached to the outcome?
Because the outcome i dont care about HOW its going to happen, but THAT it happens.
I have a such hard time of let go, keep thinking about it 24/7
I tried so many things, but its always there in the back of my mind.
Thus not the way how, but that it comes.
I hope you understand what i am trying to say, because English is not my mother language.
Thank you so much,
Hey Mark,
Read to the end of this article for an exercise that will help. You’ll appreciate it. It’s called: The First Step to Being Happy
Hi Steve,
But isnt detaching from something, the same as giving up?
How can you detache while on the other hand visualize everyday and feeling as if you already have what you want?
Than you are attached with something or am i wrong?
Mark
@ Mark…. nope!
Being detached is not giving up; it’s letting go of something that is not working; it’s being flexible enough to change your focus and move in a new direction, to take a different approach. Being detached is looking for new opportunities… and above all being detached is being happy and ACCEPTING of what is… instead of needing to have everything in place so that you can be happy.
You’ll also appreciate this video: 3 Stages to Goal Achievement
Steve
Hi Steve,
But isnt that saying to the Universe or God or whatever everyone gives name too, i dont want it anymore?
Because i think that if i let go of what i really want, what my hearts desire is, my dream of life, i give signals saying i dont want it anymore, but instead i want it more than anything.
That’s the distinction Mark, your “wanting” this so badly just creates more “wanting” in your experience… and guess what happens??
You want it more than ever, which just creates more of that experience of “wanting” and the Universe gives you exactly what you want, which is more wanting…
Steve
[..YouTube..] In a way what you say is like Buddhism. Cool.
[..YouTube..] In a way what you say is like Buddhism. Cool.
[..YouTube..] In a way what you say is like Buddhism. Cool.
[..YouTube..] In a way what you say is like Buddhism. Cool.
[..YouTube..] In a way what you say is like Buddhism. Cool.
[..YouTube..] In a way what you say is like Buddhism. Cool.
Hi, I completely understand what you’re saying by letting the outcome go. But,theres one part that confuses me. When you visualize what you want, should you visulize it once, and then let it go? Or should you continue to visualize it often?
Hi Rae’
I suggest you visualize it at least once per day for 5 minutes and then let it go.
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[..YouTube..] Your paper assignment was such a great example! I’m in the exact same situation right now, I have all this work sitting in front of me, and although I would like to run off and do something more fun and enjoyable like i’ve done before, I keep thinking I have noooo time to waste. But it’s true, once you let go and detach yourself from certain ways of thinking everything else seems to fall into place. thanks for this video stephen!
[..YouTube..] Your paper assignment was such a great example! I’m in the exact same situation right now, I have all this work sitting in front of me, and although I would like to run off and do something more fun and enjoyable like i’ve done before, I keep thinking I have noooo time to waste. But it’s true, once you let go and detach yourself from certain ways of thinking everything else seems to fall into place. thanks for this video stephen!
[..YouTube..] Your paper assignment was such a great example! I’m in the exact same situation right now, I have all this work sitting in front of me, and although I would like to run off and do something more fun and enjoyable like i’ve done before, I keep thinking I have noooo time to waste. But it’s true, once you let go and detach yourself from certain ways of thinking everything else seems to fall into place. thanks for this video stephen!
[..YouTube..] Your paper assignment was such a great example! I’m in the exact same situation right now, I have all this work sitting in front of me, and although I would like to run off and do something more fun and enjoyable like i’ve done before, I keep thinking I have noooo time to waste. But it’s true, once you let go and detach yourself from certain ways of thinking everything else seems to fall into place. thanks for this video stephen!
[..YouTube..] Your paper assignment was such a great example! I’m in the exact same situation right now, I have all this work sitting in front of me, and although I would like to run off and do something more fun and enjoyable like i’ve done before, I keep thinking I have noooo time to waste. But it’s true, once you let go and detach yourself from certain ways of thinking everything else seems to fall into place. thanks for this video stephen!
Your paper assignment was such a great example! I’m in the exact same situation right now, I have all this work sitting in front of me, and although I would like to run off and do something more fun and enjoyable like i’ve done before, I keep thinking I have noooo time to waste. But it’s true, once you let go and detach yourself from certain ways of thinking everything else seems to fall into place. thanks for this video stephen!
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[..YouTube..] Someone please help me. How can I detach myself from outcome if:
I’m going through this process to achieve a greater outcome.
If I desire something I want a positive outcome. How can I detach from it?
[..YouTube..] Someone please help me. How can I detach myself from outcome if:
I’m going through this process to achieve a greater outcome.
If I desire something I want a positive outcome. How can I detach from it?
[..YouTube..] Someone please help me. How can I detach myself from outcome if:
I’m going through this process to achieve a greater outcome.
If I desire something I want a positive outcome. How can I detach from it?
[..YouTube..] Someone please help me. How can I detach myself from outcome if:
I’m going through this process to achieve a greater outcome.
If I desire something I want a positive outcome. How can I detach from it?
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I’m going through this process to achieve a greater outcome.
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I’m going through this process to achieve a greater outcome.
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[..YouTube..] How can I emotionally detach myself from my boyfriend and the relationship? It hurts me mentally and emotionally being in love with someone who doesn’t seem to be all that serious about me or the relationship. I just want to feel free, I want to be happy and the only way I believe I will be able to accomplish this is by not being emotionally attached to him. I don’t want to hate him or anything, I just want to have the carefree attitude that if it works, ok, if not, it’s still ok.
[..YouTube..] How can I emotionally detach myself from my boyfriend and the relationship? It hurts me mentally and emotionally being in love with someone who doesn’t seem to be all that serious about me or the relationship. I just want to feel free, I want to be happy and the only way I believe I will be able to accomplish this is by not being emotionally attached to him. I don’t want to hate him or anything, I just want to have the carefree attitude that if it works, ok, if not, it’s still ok.
[..YouTube..] How can I emotionally detach myself from my boyfriend and the relationship? It hurts me mentally and emotionally being in love with someone who doesn’t seem to be all that serious about me or the relationship. I just want to feel free, I want to be happy and the only way I believe I will be able to accomplish this is by not being emotionally attached to him. I don’t want to hate him or anything, I just want to have the carefree attitude that if it works, ok, if not, it’s still ok.
[..YouTube..] How can I emotionally detach myself from my boyfriend and the relationship? It hurts me mentally and emotionally being in love with someone who doesn’t seem to be all that serious about me or the relationship. I just want to feel free, I want to be happy and the only way I believe I will be able to accomplish this is by not being emotionally attached to him. I don’t want to hate him or anything, I just want to have the carefree attitude that if it works, ok, if not, it’s still ok.
[..YouTube..] How can I emotionally detach myself from my boyfriend and the relationship? It hurts me mentally and emotionally being in love with someone who doesn’t seem to be all that serious about me or the relationship. I just want to feel free, I want to be happy and the only way I believe I will be able to accomplish this is by not being emotionally attached to him. I don’t want to hate him or anything, I just want to have the carefree attitude that if it works, ok, if not, it’s still ok.
[..YouTube..] How can I emotionally detach myself from my boyfriend and the relationship? It hurts me mentally and emotionally being in love with someone who doesn’t seem to be all that serious about me or the relationship. I just want to feel free, I want to be happy and the only way I believe I will be able to accomplish this is by not being emotionally attached to him. I don’t want to hate him or anything, I just want to have the carefree attitude that if it works, ok, if not, it’s still ok.
[..YouTube..] SELF IS FICTION WHEN CONCEPT IS FACT…a quick fix solution to western understandings is now the new religion in the states, eastern practices are interwoven with old culture and indian spirituality…not this chopra nonsense created for the confused over consumers of the west…this is pro individualism me thinks…whats next? detached yoga?
SELF IS FICTION WHEN CONCEPT IS FACT…a quick fix solution to western understandings is now the new religion in the states, eastern practices are interwoven with old culture and indian spirituality…not this chopra nonsense created for the confused over consumers of the west…this is pro individualism me thinks…whats next? detached yoga?
I just learned to appreciate everything and attach to nothing :)
[..YouTube..] works:)
works:)
Thanks man really thanks
Let go, move to the next moment & trust whatever you believe in… thanks Stephen, really like how you have simplified the stuff :)
yur awsome bro, ive been tryin to use the law of attraction for a few months n actually seeing results when i just trust that what i want is coming and just trying to enjoy everyday life with that belief, but latley ive been getting stressed and my mind feels like a tornado of negative thoughts cuz it hasn’t manifested yet but yur vid helped mann
Have you ever tried using an older industrial floor wax buffing machine? They don’t work if you use muscle, even though they’re heavy, but spin dangerously out of control unless you use a light grip. Counter-intuitive, but true. Damn, I wish I could master emotion & practice what I know!! So, a year later, how did it go, what was your outcome, and what did YOU learn?